Where I Stand

Tomorrow at 10am, the California Supreme Court decides the fate of the legal challenge to Prop 8 and the fate of our marriages. I will be standing by the Court, waiting.

august 12, 2004

august 12, 2004

Where I stood five years ago:

six months ago tomorrow we were married in san francisco. yesterday, thanks to the california supreme court, we were unmarried. our baby girl is due to arrive in just over a week. our lawyer told us to run, not walk, down to register as domestic partners should our marriages become invalidated. we spent an excruciating and ultimately fruitless few hours today, nearly as much time as we spent getting married that valentine’s day, trying to second-class our union by registering as domestic partners (more)…

may 15, 2008

may 15, 2008

Where I stood one year ago:

On Thursday, May 15, it’s true, Bette Midler’s particularly brassy-voiced version of “Chapel of Love” was ringing through my head as I was running down Market Street trying to get to the California State Building by 10am, in time for the Supreme Court’s decision on In Re Marriage. (As you may remember,) It was a very hot day, and I was panting and sweaty by the time I reached the Supreme Court — not in good shape for my photo opp with Kate Kendell — but I was feeling surprisingly hopeful about the immediately pending decision on marriage (more)…

november 5, 2008

november 5, 2008

Where I stood six months ago:

Much has been written and discussed since November 4, 2008 in the attempt to sort out why our efforts in California against Proposition 8 failed to actually beat the proposition. We should of course study hard and learn from mistakes, and above all move forward with this momentum. But what continues to impress me the most is the collective spirit of giving — of all of your stories — that has taken place as a result of this profound effort (more)…

Where will I stand the day after tomorrow?

Where do you stand?

You are asked now, by your country, and perhaps by your creator, to stand on one side or another. You are asked now to stand, not on a question of politics, not on a question of religion, not on a question of gay or straight. You are asked now to stand, on a question of love. All you need do is stand, and let the tiny ember of love meet its own fate.

You don’t have to help it, you don’t have it applaud it, you don’t have to fight for it. Just don’t put it out. Just don’t extinguish it. Because while it may at first look like that love is between two people you don’t know and you don’t understand and maybe you don’t even want to know. It is, in fact, the ember of your love, for your fellow person just because this is the only world we have.

— Keith Olbermann

4 thoughts on “Where I Stand

  1. Same here Moya. By you and everyone else who just want – not more and not less – what others can have without any fight.
    I hope that today’s decision is at half good news that the existing marriages are still valid -(as I understand it.)

  2. @leanne <3

    @ronny thanks so much for stopping by and for the comment — yes, the existing marriages (of which ours is one out of 18,000) are still valid. the decision went like this:
    6-1 upholding prop 8
    7-0 keeping marriages valid

    so, while nice that it was unanimous about the marriages, the 6-1 ruling really stings and is a huge disappointment, especially since those who authored such beautiful language last year flipped this year. plus, while i value our marriage, i can't rest until this injustice is addressed.

    see leanne's great pics of today –

    see an interview of me on sf weekly — http://blogs.sfweekly.com/thesnitch/2009/05/moya_watsonwatson_on_the_right.php

  3. Moya, while the decision is not going to rank in the greatest things to happen in 2009 it is but a small setback in road to equality. As Ronny said, the ask is not for special handling, just to be equal in the eyes of the law. If I look back, all civil rights movement hit speed bumps along the way to achieving their true goal. When we do succeed I hope it will be with such a logical mind shift in the majority that people will quickly look back and say “what were people thinking back then?” like they do now with women/minority voting, interracial marriages, barring from immigration based on ethnicity, etc.
    One bright side in the ruling is that the courts will stand by the law – you are legally married and it will always be recognized. Now we need to get marriage equality for everyone into law – not just the 18,000 lucky ones. Keep your chin up. :-)

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